Spring 2011 Newsletter Mrs. Walker

Spring 2011 Newsletter Mrs. Walker

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Just wanted to type a quick test post.

Helping U2 Simply Define Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

One disorder that is becoming more commonly diagnosed than ever is the condition called Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Mental health professionals were aware of PTSD before this became the common, trendy name. Many remember calling it “shell shock”.  It starts with events that are so traumatizing for those suffering from PTSD that they are incapable of coping with it all at once. It is categorized as an anxiety disorder for clinical purposes. It can occur after you have been through a traumatic event. A traumatic event is something horrible and scary that you see or that happens to you. During this traumatic event, you truly believe that your life or the live’s of others’ are in danger. You may feel fear or that you have no control over the event.

Anyone who has gone through a life-threatening event can develop PTSD. These events can include:

  • Combat or military exposure
  • Child sexual or physical abuse
  • Terrorist attacks
  • Natural disasters, such as a fire, tornado, hurricane, flood, or earthquake.
  • Serious accidents, such as a car wreck.
  • Sexual or physical assault

After the event, you may feel scared, confused, or angry. If these feelings don’t go away or  worsen, you may have PTSD. These symptoms can disrupt your life in many ways and with in varying degrees of severity, making it hard to continue with your daily activities.

During war, many soldiers, sailors, marines and airmen experience horrors that were beyond anything they could have imagined. We have seen an increase in veteran suicides since the Vietnam conflict, but attention to this tragic epidemic has increased in just the past five years. Many have also experienced PTSD  from other devastating acts of violence, catastrophic losses, repeated abuses beyond imagination, and many more terrible circumstances. Whatever the cause, left undiagnosed and untreated, those with PTSD stand to deal with disturbing symptoms including sleep trouble, anxiety, depression, flashbacks, and even blackouts.

Although there are a variety of therapeutic techniques found to successfully treat Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, the agreed upon basis to them all is the unraveling of the layers of emotions, feelings, fears and similar items that may have long been hidden in an attempt to forget. Learning to deal with these feelings and fears is the most important thing. Finding someone they can open up with in order to process those emotions is key! PTSD is a chronic condition; however, with a combination of the appropriate therapy and medication, it can be managed.

Here is a link to a very helpful document explaining PTSD:

http://www.ptsd.va.gov/public/understanding_ptsd/booklet.pdf

Helping U2 Understand LMLS (Last Man Last Squad)

In virtually every organization, group, team or assembly of people, there is at least one individual in the role of LMLS. The term is not necessarily synonymous with the weakest link in the group, but more akin to the overlooked, underestimated or least-considered person because of their position in the hierarchy of the group. They are quiet, unassuming and at times forgotten as group dynamics dictate. Many persons deliberately (often without knowing they’re doing so) fulfill the role of LMLS for many, many reasons. These reasons are wide ranging, but all lead to the same outcome: choosing to stay in the background and opting to play small hoping as time elapses to be forgotten.

The concept derives from the military, specifically the formation of military ranks. There are typically three squads in a platoon, two platoons in a company and three companies in a battalion.  During a battalion formation the battalion commander will be out front to present his/her battalion to whomever may be reviewing or inspecting. During this process, the very last person to be reviewed or inspected is the proverbial LMLS. In combat or aboard ship they get the hardest, most menial jobs but tend to do them very well and without complaint. They are given orders by everyone and give orders to no one. However, they are just as important as the battalion commander in getting the mission accomplished. One famous example of a LMLS was Audie Murphy, Medal of Honor Recipient. In fact, while onboard the aircraft carrier, USS Enterprise, the Commanding Officer introduced himself by stating he was no more important to the readiness of the ship than the seaman who was responsible for ensuring every sailor had toilet paper. In other words, EVERYONE aboard the floating city of 6,000 men were important! Envision our society as the Enterprise. Someone has to be responsible for the toilet paper.

How does the LMLS concept relate to PTSD or other biopsychosocial impairments? Those of us who suffer from PTSD tend to use avoidance in order to cope with the day-to-day issues that life presents us. It’s an unhealthy coping mechanism that causes us to withdraw from society. More importantly, it causes many of us to lose our station in life as it slowly lowers expectations, erodes confidence and warps your sense of social norms. It’s a very debilitating and self-defeating behavior that is very obvious to others around us when we are in that particular mode. We not only rob ourselves of life’s grandness, but we selfishly do not enrich our family, friends and community with our unique gifts.

It is time to bring awareness to the LMLS concept. Specifically, there too many homeless veterans caught in this cycle that need to be acknowledged so that we may all be enriched by the gifts they possess. Let’s start the LMLS Movement today! They are just as important to our society as the President. He would be the first one to tell you such. For whatever reasons, many homeless vets chose to be in the LMLS mode, but they truly want a way out and simply don’t know where to start. Collectively, we as a society can be there start. I’m confident that most of them will take it from there!  Trust me. No one truly wants stay the LMLS!!

Helping U2 Lessen Your Procrastination Habits

A survey by the University of Chicago suggested that those who relish challenge are more likely to live up to ten years longer than those who spend their lives inhibited by timidity. Trying to realize our ambitions, even if we don’t always meet them, is preferable to not having the courage or motivation to take the risk. So not making any resolutions because we fear that we’ll break them is a defeatist attitude, as we allow procrastination to become an insidious habit which stops us from leading more fulfilling lives.
The following suggestions offer ten ways to defeat the procrastination habit:
1. Personal values development
Take the time to find out what you really want in life, what your personal values are. Do you want more time, more money, better health, greater self esteem and confidence, more fulfilling relationships, a different career, set up a business? When we procrastinate it’s often because what we are planning to do is not really aligned with what we truly want. We may be scared of our skills (or perceived lack of) or fear ridicule from others.
2. Make health and high energy levels a priority
Without good health we are less likely to have the energy and dynamism needed to make positive changes in our lives and it’s easier (and necessary if you’re very ill) to procrastinate. So ensure
that you have a nourishing diet, sleep well, exercise and meditate. Incidentally, it is believed that regular meditation helps delay the worst effects of the ageing process.
3. Visualize your life without procrastination
See and feel the benefits in your life if you didn’t procrastinate. What could you do and achieve? Begin to act as if you’re not a procrastinator. Play the role of a non-procrastinator in your life’s
movie. Write, draw, or imagine your life as a film. Use affirmations to help you.

4. Banish the Gremlins
That little voice which runs on auto in your head – that dismisses any idea that you might have. It says things like “I’m not in the mood” “I don’t have time” “I can’t do this”. Stop running on auto,
replace the “should’s” “oughts” “have tos” with “want to” “desire”. You have a choice. Acknowledge your choices and banish the Gremlin. Again, using affirmations can help you replace the
Gremlin with more positive alternatives.
5. Over commitment
Saying “yes” to everything often leaves you feeling tired and without the energy to focus on what is most important to you. This leads to procrastination as projects and tasks are not accomplished.
Identify what is most important to you and only focus on those areas which will make the biggest difference to your life. These enhance your focus and motivation.
6. Set personal and professional goals
It’s hard to motivate yourself when you don’t have a good idea of what you want to accomplish. So when setting goals think about what you want to achieve in the short term and long term.
Techniques for doing so include the SMART strategy. S = Specific M = Measurable A= Action R = Realistic T = Time Based. You can also use goal setting software to assist you in goal planning and
setting.
7. Prioritize Your Goals
Develop a plan or schedule to help you reach your goals. In doing so you will begin to identify whether some elements need to be included or enhanced or dropped completely. Also remember to be
flexible, revisit your goals regularly and modify or drop if appropriate. Just because a goal is written down doesn’t mean that it is set in stone!
8. Divide and Conquer
Once you’ve prioritized your goals, divide them into smaller chunks. Sometimes we procrastinate because a project seems really large that the scale of it overwhelms us and puts us into a
temporary form of paralysis – you don’t know where to start, so you don’t start at all! Many refer to it as “Analysis Paralysis”. Approach each project – especially large ones – on a step by step basis.
9. Reward yourself.
Once you start to complete tasks, reward yourself by giving yourself something that you want. So instead of seeing a film before you complete a task, see it afterwards and make it a reward for you.
10. Just get started.
No excuses. Don’t wait until you’re in the mood. The mood never comes! Don’t wait until the time is right. That time never comes. It is a clever camouflage and a delaying tactic. What you resist persists! Start with what is easiest, so that you experience immediate success, which will give you the fuel and motivation to upgrade and take on larger projects. For those gung ho types, start with the most difficult tasks first.

Do any of the above and you’ll be well on your way to solving your procrastination habit.  And if you’re procrastinating over doing any of the above  remember that life is the biggest deadline of all!

Helping U2 Live Your Life Like Everyone Is Only In Their Underwear!

The happiest people are those who do not judge others, live in kindness and love themselves.  Do you ever see 
someone who is perpetually happy and wish you could be like them?  You CAN achieve a healthy self-esteem!! It takes 
time and effort, but it is very doable. Like the Nike slogan would say, "Just Do It"!  
Following are seven steps to help you on your way to becoming a happier, healthier YOU. 

IDENTIFY- One is not required to live by “I have to” or “I must”. Everything we do is a result of a decision, a 
choice.  Choices made in our younger years and choices made this morning when we woke up.  Everything is a choice:  
to obey or disobey; to study or not study; to eat right or not eat right.  When making these choices, we control 
everything about our lives including our future and our level of self-awareness.  When you see a wise, confident 
person – it’s not luck, it’s choice.  Once you realize and accept this, only then can you begin to become who it is 
you want to be.  All of us are given special gifts and talents.  Through self-discovery, we are able to identify 
these gifts.  If we pay attention to who we are and what makes us happy, we will make the right choices to set our 
own future.  

EVALUATE- Who are you?  Look at yourself and be honest.  List the things you like (Pros), and don’t like (Cons) 
about you.  If you are (and you should be) your own best friend, you should be able to take a look at the Cons and 
develop a plan to begin moving the negative attributes over to the positive side.  Likewise, you should take a look 
at your Pros and develop a plan to make sure those positive attributes remain on the positive side and continue to 
grow on the inside and outside of you.  As you work out a plan, try to find people with like personalities who 
share your same goals.  These are the very people that will make great friends and help you stay on your set path.

CONFIRM- Talk to yourself!  Use self-affirmations. Even if you don't initially believe them, say them anyway. Still 
using your list of Pros, begin reinforcing the positive attributes of your personality. “I am successful”, “I am 
pretty”, “I am fun!”... every positive thought should be repeated often – YOU are WHAT you THINK!!!

FORGIVE- Forgive yourself for screw ups!  They happen to all of us!  We are as imperfect creatures by design!!  
Give yourself a break – forgive and move on.  You can’t change the past – but you can live in the present and 
affect the future! Stay in the now and learn to listen without judgement.

REST- Treat yourself right.  Be a friend, a good listener, a giver, not a taker – we feel the best about ourselves 
when we make someone else smile.

BE THANKFUL- Gratitude will get you everywhere.  Give thanks to your higher power.  Be humble in all you have.  
Pray for those with cold hearts or sad lives.  Really know what you have; all of the gifts, talents, and things you 
possess.  Here today, gone tomorrow…if you live your life with gratitude and love, peace will always be in your 
presence. Basically, learn to have an "Attitude of Gratitude".

ACCEPTANCE- Do not accept your fate dictated by others.  Accept only the fate you give yourself.  Through acts of 
kindness and focused determination, you can achieve all that is good in this life.  When you believe in kindness 
and in yourself – you can achieve anything.  At that point self-esteem is abundant and so is life.

Know yourself!  Like yourself by knowing yourself! Live life on life's terms!!



Finding A Cheap Flight

Getting a cheap flight is not always easy for some, but for those who know where to look it is easy peezy.  The times of waiting for cheap flights at the airport are long gone.  These days all you really need to do is click a web-page and it is right at your fingertips.  Flights that are the cheapest or have the most recent specials are on the screen.  Give that credit card and bam, instant tickets.  The digital system to book the e-tickets are very easy these days.  Many of the airlines over last minute cheap deals.  looking there or at a cheaptickets.com is another option.

It is a good idea to check at the flight center for safe and not so safe places to travel.  Expect rapid changes in this day in age for cheap deals. Checking airlines for if it is on-time or not.  If you can travel at the last minute you can usually expect to get the best deals, because they need to fill seats.

Good luck at the travel centers.

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